There has to be a birth like connection to anything that you commit to.
Rejection is a test whether you are serious about your dreams and ambitions. This is like anytime we tried to learn something new, we accepted it as failure and continued until we mastered the skills. This should be a quick flashback to the very first days you started your job. Everything almost felt overwhelming. From that jargon, initials, and descriptions, the first time it felt like too much to comprehend. Now you realize how much you have grown when you meet a novice, and they look like your past self.
You never took the first days as rejection but as a learning phase. When you do a personal project, rejection seems like the best word to fit in. It is this initial character that we polish and works on to get efficient. The nature of how hard it is to start becomes the cost of our inception to the commitment.
The birth connection
This takes me back to 31st May the night before my daughter was born. We had gone to the hospital the afternoon before, after checks we were assured all was well. Definitely, I had to leave my wife behind in the doctor’s hands. I tell you this is the longest night I had. There is a way the mind plays back all the negative information you have ever come across. The torment was loud and lonely, I paced in the house, the rooms got bigger and void. The first sight on my daughter explains the cost I had paid all night. It’s a mixture of overwhelming emotions and the doubt of the gift you see.
It was the first day of a long journey that awaits us. Doesn’t matter how old I will become but I will never forget the birth connection that comes with the dark night. I’m sure I looked at my watch severally before daybreak.
This kind of total shift is what I’m talking about. If the career you have or the relationship you have committed to lack the weight of connection, I’m worried if you will make through. When it begins it’s very rosy and promising until you have survived waves of challenges and still decide to stick to each other. Until your entrepreneurship takes you through tough times like bad debts and low times then the commitment is yet to kick in.
Rejection is part of the contractions that finally deliver success. If success is a journey then that means there is a lot that can’t be predicted. I’m a big consumer of audiovisuals and podcast top the list, from the many hours I have spent gathering knowledge there is this paramount lesson I would want to share.
How does it look like in there?
In your inner dreams, how would the realized dream look like? Is it more of the outer world or the inner world? Look at this two scenarios here.
Ndichu has been saving to buy land and in progress build a home for him and his young family. This means that this project is always hanging on his mind in everyday planning. Psychology tells us that the end product is not the point of celebration but the reflection on the journey. He won’t be jumping up and down when the final day arrives, it will be more of a relief. Now, this sounds like me facing my gradual success across life.
Contrast that picture with anyone who has won a jackpot.
Exactly those are the different routes to birth success and I don’t think that all the items that will contribute to your success can be tied to a jackpot and how many jackpots have you won so far.
We have to take the steps, scout for the land, buy it, lay some perimeter wall and raise the dream from the foundations. We can’t say that not having construction happening every day is rejection, it is part of the journey.
You are your habits
From my life coach perspective, the routines of our lives are significantly made of habits. The repetition of activities over time builds a solid habit. When you have the habit of not saying the truth what do you become, how you define that friend who is always asking for money and never pays back? In the same line of thought what happens to you after months of unwatched eating and no exercise.
In retrospect, any new good habit is hard to build. We have to keep practicing the routine to have it stick. From experience, I can confirm that even the good habits that have stuck if we don’t keep them nourished they slide away. I think we keep teaching ourselves new habits all through life.
This is the umbilical cord that connects us to our commitments. If we use the route Ndichu has used them we will get a relief when our commitments bare fruits.
Embrace hard times and have the perspective that this is a learning process.